tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617426134849640048.post1550683510511213863..comments2023-11-03T07:36:08.643-04:00Comments on The View From Here: A Vested InterestUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617426134849640048.post-45058250855777895402010-05-16T21:00:41.933-04:002010-05-16T21:00:41.933-04:00@ Kamakula - I understand where you're coming ...@ Kamakula - I understand where you're coming from - especially if it's a cultural perspective. Although my cousin is older, so him paying was right on time. :-)<br /><br />In regards to your example I think that you were out w/ a chick who apparently "has her own". And that's a good thing. Lol. But I'm assuming here that you were enjoying her company and realized that even though you're a grad student on a stipend, you didn't mind paying for her drinks. Why? Cause you read the situation and cause you ain't no fool. <br /><br />If there are men who are not willing to pay for "company", but still want a female companion then they either need to be more selective or they need to suggest free events - movies on the National Mall or a trip to the Smithsonian. And then they can part ways before she's like, "I'm hungry." Heh.<br /><br />@ Shy - Thanks! Haha bless any man's soul who is asking women out and not paying. That's a tragedy. And yet I would guess it happens more often than not. And not in the 'we're alternating rounds' kinda way, but in a 'gotcha bytch' you're paying for my dinner kinda way. I feel you that at this age as priorities shift from he's foine and got that good hair, to is he investing in his 401k - these seemingly little things actually matter cause they're part of the bigger picture.Rum Punchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05675412616844332162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617426134849640048.post-21821686979988999102010-05-15T14:49:42.089-04:002010-05-15T14:49:42.089-04:00Great post, Rum Punch. I agree with you, as I'...Great post, Rum Punch. I agree with you, as I'm more into traditional roles when courting/dating. If I'm talking to/seeing a guy who always asks me out, but never seems to want to pay...I'm weary that he's not right for me on the basis he wouldn't be able to provide for me in the future (assuming there'd be one with him). Also, kinda shows a lack of committment (the investing you talked about). If my male FRIENDS can foot the bill when asking me to happy hour and what-not...I know someone who wants to be my man needs to have that same mind-set!Shyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01560075748608421109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-617426134849640048.post-60918274209939759272010-05-14T17:18:05.292-04:002010-05-14T17:18:05.292-04:00I'm going to have to disagree with you on this...I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one. These things are to be handled on a case by case basis.<br /><br />I'm a poor graduate student. I live on my stipend. Which pays food, rent, insurances, gas, and leaves me little else.<br /><br />When my cousin (female) visits, who is a doctor, making 6-7x what my stipend would be on an annual basis, does it really make sense for me to insist on paying the tab?<br /><br />Aside from that, in our culture, the older one always takes care of the younger. Period. End of story. In fact, I would be insulting her if I asked to pay.<br /><br />I was just on a date a couple weeks ago where she paid for her drinks for the first half of the night, and I paid for our stuff the other half. It was a fluid situation - I essentially had to have earned her trust and comfort before she would allow me to buy her things.<br /><br />If a guy plays this by ear, he shouldn't go wrong unless he's an absolute idiot. And as I keep telling everyone this week, there has yet to be anything designed that is absolutely fool proof. So even the idiots know when something's up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com