Never met anyone like him before. He was different. Nerdy, so to speak-- she liked that. Also, younger than she, but not significantly so, and he had that definiteley not been her MO before. And he lived in Philly, not too far where distance becoems a tiebreaker.
He was educated, driven, ambitious, all the virtues the men of her past couldn't seem to muster at the same time. So yes, she liked him. Matter of fact, she loved him. And yes, he was the one still is maybe. But see when she liked him, she was still in a long-term relationship that was unfilling. And it took her 10 years to figure that out. And Mr. Nerdy, had been waiting on her intentions to dismantle it all. She took her time, not because she wasn't serious she was, but because she had to make sure her heart was truly over senior beau.
So, Mr. Nerdy waited.
As for my friend let's call her Glen Livet and Senior Beau -- it had grown stagnant, no growth. And I must not dismiss the fact that at the time her Senior Beau was 12 years her senior when she met him at 21. CRAZY! I know. Years filled with too much drama.
And in the meantime, Mr. Nerdy had baby mama issues to tend too. He had a daughter and was still spellbound by the yoke of the mother. Felt irresponsible if he was abandoning his "family", but he never articulated that information to Glen Livet. So, on that fateful day of Christmas 2000 (Mr. Nerdy's birthday), Glen Livet knew her life needed change and she was willing and ready to emabark on a new chapter in her life with Mr. Nerdy. He wasn't ready, she didn't spend Christmas in Philly. So, she let it go and moved on....
Moved on... yet she moved backwards perhaps?
To a flame rather high school sweetheart. All these years through the decade with Senior Beau, the tangoesque relationship with Mr. Nerdy, and the brief dalliances with others he heard Glen Livet's trials and tribulations. She shared that with him as friends do. He was her friend -- a sounding board. She was single, yet wasn't sure if she was ready to mingle. But single nonetheless and no kids. funny how most the serious relationships she'd encountered the men always had a child/ren. Ol' Sweetheart absorbed it and heard it all. And she interpreted that to mean, she knew where she was in life and understood her vision. A vision that included marriage and children to follow in that order... So, she rekindled that relationship with Ol' Sweetheart.
No marriage and a child.
And she's sinking deeper and deeper into an abyss.
Not sure where she's going, what direction she's headed. Confused of how she arrived at this place. Trying to figure out how she got here. Why she's still there? She reckons it's for the child to acquire a relationship with her father -- a relationship she has never known. And her unhappiness is visible. For her, emotions have always been written on her face.
Mr. Nerdy is whispering in the background. The writing is on the wall -- it's over. "This is our time. We needed our experiences to get us here." He claims he's older and figured it out. I want you. I'm still in love with you. I'll move to your city, for the convenience of you and the child. And make it happen!?... And she doesn't know, what to do. Well, rather she's unsure of what to do. She's already done 4 years with babydaddy.
Ok, folks this is a true story. As true as a heart attack. And Glen Livet has beat me down to share this story for some time. She's seeking thoughts and analysis. Perhaps a fresh perspective. So, please dissect, deconstruct, and discuss.
SO LONG, FAREWELL...
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