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Monday, August 11, 2008

My Vows to Myself

Y'all Show Your Love as 5 and a Possible Present: Courvoisier

Courvousier: Straight from the islands, I am a married lady living in the United States. I strive for knowledge, innovation and perfection in this world; though I’m keenly aware no one is perfect…not even me. I enjoy the simple and exquisite things in life. I believe every life has a purpose and I am eager to fulfill mine.

“And what is the purpose of life? It is the freedom of life, the liberation of life from all things, the liberation which comes when you have gone through all experiences and are, therefore, beyond all experience… welcome to your heart every experience, however unpleasant, however delightful, so as to make your life full as the rain-drop.” – Jiddhu Krishnamurti

Given some recent events that have occurred in my life, I have been pondering many of the life rules that I subconsciously made for myself. Here are few (not listed in any particular order):
You have to own a house.
You have to have a steady paying job.
You have to graduate from college.
You have to have kids.
You have to get married.
You have to look nice.
Etc., Etc., Etc

And being the Type-A personality that I am, I always take those rules a few steps further.


When I was younger, I recall having really good answers to these questions. Now that I am older, those answers don’t seem so great anymore. I find myself readdressing those rules and trying to justify those answers I thought were so great. And I can’t justify them at all anymore.

For those of you who don’t know me I have achieved all of these "rules" except for having kids. So this is not a case of me giving up on these goals for what ever reason, just because. I guess at this point in my life I feel like I have been there done that. Now what? Still young and in my twenties...what do I do next? So I started making life choices (note: these are no longer rules).

Here they are:

I will no longer make life rules that restrain me from living.

I will focus on the aspects of my life that make me happy/content.

I will believe that life is not work to buy-and-compete; work is to honestly obtain money to finance worthwhile enriching experiences.

And lastly, I will love myself regardless of what I have or have not achieved and/or obtained.

No longer am I going to get caught up in what I think I should be working towards and what I should have at a certain age. And encourage you all to do the same.

These are the vows I'm making to myself.

Much Luv :)



IntrospectiveGoddess said...

I needed to read this today, I am always berating myself for not accomplishing what I feel I should have at my age...I am only in my early 20's but I gave myself till 25 to have my own place, car and a steady job....I see now that that may not happen but I have to be able to deal with it and not consider myself a failure because of it.

MrsMeany said...

Who creates these goal "deadlines"? NO ONE BUT US! There is no BOOK that says in life you should do certain activities by a certain time! We're our own worst enemies!

I FULLY understand about having goals in life--I have TONS of things that I want achieve. (The saying "if you fail to plan, you plan to fail" is one of my FAVORITES!) But when we become OBSESSED with having this, that or the other by a certain age, I think it's a little counter-productive. Instead of focusing on achieving the goal, we waste time being sad about NOT attaining it by a self-imposed time frame instead of keeping our EYES ON THE PRIZE.

Tomorrow's not promised to anyone, so live life NOW! I have my goals, but I don't beat myself up trying to get them! I know that if it's meant to happen, it WILL...for ALL of US!!! Maybe not exactly when we want it to, but that's life.

shelia said...

I like the word life choices better than rules too. Those vows are some that I could stand to live by too.

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

i have done basically all i set out to do and got more in the work its real easy

and where my drank at folk