A friend of mine shared some news about her baby brother. He’s fucking up. He’s indifferent about school, disobeying parents, typical dumb shit. And mind you, he’s in high school. So, my friend’s mom requested of my friend to type his paper for school. And her mother pleaded in her brother’s defense, stating that if the paper isn’t prepared for him, he won’t submit it. Well, then the paper just won’t be submitted? right
My friend is so frustrated with her mother and her brother. She’s a new mom has her own household to contend with and her patience is runnin’ pretty thin to deal with this. I told her not to type that shit. This boy’s world needs to crack right now instead of 5 years later when he’s 21 and he becomes a statistic. Really, these lil’ mofos think they know what they doing --- well give him a dose of REAl LIFE 101 for 24 hours, shit – 72 hours if you have too. She counters her mother wouldn’t do that. I was quick to remind her when he turns 18 – GAME OVER. No one gives a fuck, if he can’t read, write, etc. They’ll just pity the fool. And what good has Mama done if he does nothing with his life. And mind you Mama is in the retirement age—is she really going to take care of him forever? I don’t get these kids allure of the streets. Ain’t shit out there.
Now my friend is the oldest of 5 – she’s knocking on 40, the next sibling (her sister) is in her 30s, followed by 3 boys: 2 – young 20’s and 1 teen brother. Three out of the 4 (excluding the baby brother) are working professionals including the eldest two (being females). The fact that their brother can’t relate to what his older siblings in life are doing is troublesome. But as my friends says, she can’t relate to this new generation. I really think in some black households, boys and girls are being raised differently. Ok, I have to switch gears for a minute.
My friend and her sister were raised with knowing no man wants a no good woman, you’ll have to cook for your man, keep a clean house, etc. Granted these are life skills, but that’s my point exactly. Life skills, very few men are being thought those life skills. However, men from the south particularly from Louisiana (the ones I know) were all taught to cook ‘cuz their Mama told them “you’re gonna learn how to cook if ya gonna eat” You think if the family told this fool about life skills, he’d have something to think about. And sometimes you can tell people things until you turn blue in the face and shit don’t matter. And that’s fine too. As long as he know it’s a hard knock life, then that’s half the battle.
cheers,
Bellini
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I really hope your friend doesnt do that boy's paper, the audacity of her mother!!!!!
Boys are being raised differently than girls its that double standard, the girls get taught to keep a clean house and cook and then they end up doing those things around the house at the laziness of their boy siblings, its fucking sickening...I dont feel no kinda sorry for that boy's mother she needs to put her foot down..is there a father in the home, maybe one of his older brothers can talk to him..... I say let his ass hit rock bottom....
This dude is already a stastic. It is sad but true. I have said before, and I will say it now...
There is nothing a woman can teach a boy about being a man. There is nothing a man can teach a girl about being a woman.
But it takes both to make a responsible adult.
It takes 2 parents.
Not a baby mama.
Not a baby daddy.
Living in the house.. Together. That is the only way we will stop all this fuckery that is going on with our kids.
Unfortunately, women raise their daughters and love/coddle their sons. Shame.
@introspective goddess: tell it-- there is an apparent fear in our community of allowing kids to hit rock bottom on our watch, but when they become adult there is true apathy in the community and their chance of overcoming diminishes greatly in adulthood
@dirty red: it's sad & scary all at the same time. you're absolutely right--the other day i was watching Soul Food and Ahmed parents were going through the rough patch in their marriage and his mother started callin him lil'Man: adopt manly roles and during his solilquy he says I'm the child--and he was darn right. Black women have serious ass issues and many times they bark up a tree about what a man ain't doing but lack introspective thought on how they contribute to the madness
@superhussy: you're on to something, but mothers need to check themselves be'cuz dirty red is right--a woman can not teach a boy to be a man --only man--at the very least teach his ass lifeskills: responsibility, accountability, punctuality, etc.!
to all: interestingly enough, the boy's father is in the home -- apparently his there not interactive -- a damn shame!
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