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Monday, March 23, 2009

Living in the truth?

I found myself today contemplating What is the difference between the chick who sticks around knowing he is lying and the chick who believes the lies and sticks around?

Okay before I begin... let me paint the scene. This scenario involves two women...Jack-kay! and Jacquelyn. Both women are well educated, independent, and of course...single. Both understand the desire for a man in their life and both are involved in the same type relationship.

Each woman is seeing a guy who is sauve, smart, funny and charismatic...everybody loves them some of this golden boy. (Of course golden boy knows this too.) And did I mention golden boy is super busy cause he is forever getting invited somewhere.

Nonetheless, Jack-kay! and Jacquelyn are hard working chicks. Their calendars too are always booked. But each knows that GB (golden boy) is a smooth brother. Each believes that the ladies must be throwing the panties at him because they have each been tempted in the past to do so. Each knows deep down inside that he is not right for them and he doesn't want a relationship. But no matter how many dinners he cooks and sweet love letters he writes, he knows that GB loves them as a friend and would do whatever it takes to keep them as a friend, with or without benefits.

SO here is where the two differ...

Jack-kay! is quick to remind GB, "I know you don't want a relationship, which I am not even sure if that is something I want from you, so I will accept what you have to offer right now because it is fun." Whereas, Jacquelyn is like "Why won't you be with me? You say you love me..." and we know how that story goes. Jacquelyn pines for GB to wake-up-and-smell-the-coffee and demand to be her man. Jack-kay! stays on the grind dating but still allows GB to come and go as he pleases.

I know how most people feel about Jacquelyn--her scenario is somewhat sad. BUT Jack-kay! is she sad also?

Much luv until next week...peace :)

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Both are settling, its just Jak-Kay realizes which is still sad, she is selling herself short in the name of fun LOL

Anonymous said...

i'd say both are sad. jacquelyn because she's waiting for something that won't happen, jack-kay! b/c she's hindering what could happen. even if jack-kay! doesn't want somethin serious from gb,she's not leaving space for serious to come her way, if that's what she really wants.

Amaretto said...

I agree with Anon 1 and 2. Both Jacs need to turn the page and keep GB in that last chapter they just read. Ignorance is bliss but Jac-Kay! might be fooling herself. I often wonder is it really possible for females to have a solely sexual relationship with a man over an extended period of time without some type of feelings creeping in?

Courvoisier said...

Got to agree...I think they are both sad to some degree also.

To Amaretto...I think that goes both ways but more so for women. Men are just better at not showing that that emotion just like they do other emotions, except for anger. Did I just say that? (chuckle)

Bellini said...

@courvoisier: hmmmm... i need to let it marinate some more...

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