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Sunday, April 19, 2009

What Say You Courviser? Pt. 4

"It has been a while now. You need to start dating... you know seeing other men." (chuckle)

For the past week, this has been said to me at least once a day and it makes me chuckle. It makes me chuckle because when I think about women my age dating there is only one common goal. Most ladies in their mid to late twenties are looking for the ONE. The man to settle down with and start a family. Whereas I, on the other hand, am not interested in that at all at the moment. I guess you can say... been there, done that. It is funny because I liken myself sometimes to a divorcee in her early forties. My energy is completely focused on the other aspects of my life and I am okay with the thought of not being with someone right now.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying I don't want someone to spend the rest of my life with but I understand that I may not have that and I have had to come to terms with it. I have experienced married life at its best and at its worst, for both I am truly grateful. Sometimes, I feel like there is a very limited supply of decent, single men to choose from for my fellow single ladies. Who am I to enter back into this rat race? Give someone else a chance. (chuckle) You don't REALLY know what marriage is like until you have been married. (not shacking up... MARRIED)

So although, I still hope to find someone to share my life experiences with however, I am not eager like I use to be. I am comfortable. There is no rush. And yes, I will start dating again but not for the reasons that you would like me to. I am not going date to find a replacement but because I found someone of true interest. Which in the meantime, may appear like I am not open to dating or open to loving again but believe me it is not.

Much luv until next week... peace:)


cinco said...


I gained my freedom after over 20 years five years ago. Although I'm now in a committed relationship I celebrate my singleneas!

Intrepidblackman said...

Seems to me your attitude is spot on.

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