wishing on a star...

Yesterday, I hit the gym after being incognito due to weather and on travel status. After my workout, a gym buddy – who happens to be an older woman—explains to me how her married grown son exes fiend for her attention. Now there is one caveat – not all these women are aware that their ex is married. But does it matter?

There happens to be one ex in particular who is her son’s senior by 9 years, hence a grown ass woman – and she calls his Mama like clockwork. She mentioned how girlfriend will call her during the airing of “Desperate Housewives” (if her affinity for the show is akin to my intense love of the Wire – you betta not call Bellini until after credits) so immediately I understood her pain. Now this ex – for the sake of this post we’ll call her Jennifer. Jennifer acknowledges to Mama that her son has lied to her time and time again – and yet there is something about him. Him – let’s call him Darryl. It is also my understanding according to Mama – of course—that all of Darryl’s exes including the wife all know each other. They went to college together and everything. Now Jennifer dates and apparently has and continues to be courted by decent fellows, but its something about Darryl that keeps her caught up. So, Mama asks me should she tell Jennifer that Darryl is married.

My instinctual response said “Hell yea”. But then again, I got to thinkin about what Big Poppa would say and he believes one should never meddle in other’s business hmmmph, but she asked for my opinion – and it’s not like I know any of the parties involved. So, 3 seconds later – I retracted my response and told her to give me 48 hours – enough time to post this on the blog and get your feedback.

Here’s some background if it helps. All parties are grown individuals. Mama is married and hubby has told her to hang-up on these women. Mama has pity for the sorrowful state of these women. In Mama's defense, it seems like a girlfriend is callin' her to chat although a lil' too frequent for her taste. Mama has asked Darryl whether he's fooling around and the he said NO. Mama is not playing the role of operator. If she confides in anybody it’s her husband, but she divulges no information between Darryl and Jennifer, nor other exes. Darryl does not live home with Mama. As, I said before he’s married and has 1 child with his wife. At times, Darryl chooses not to wear his wedding ring. And Mama implores why – and lies to Mama and concocts a bullshit ass excuse about his line of work (criminal justice) being an interference (what crock full o’ shit!). And Mama feels she can’t make it her issue if the wife is happy – it ain’t nobody’s business?

Now supposedly, Darryl is not cheating on his wife or is he? Darryl didn’t disclose to all of his exes that he was married and he’s been married for 3 years. Also, all the exes call him at work or his mobile – no one calls his residence. Darryl feels it ain’t nobody’s business that he’s married. And one time Jennifer called the mobile late at night, although he was home and the wife had a tiff about the late night booty call. Mama knows her son is no good, but the exes are drawn to her – but it’s not like they’re coming over for tea & crumpets, or barbecues/cookouts.
Does it matter?

If there are any wives who read my blog today, I want to hear from you – ‘cuz Bellini is trying to make sense of the madness. Husbands, please give me your two cents, too. I feel like Darryl is an asshole and he has a wife that has accepted his bullshit. Am I coming down too hard on the wife I'm not blaming her by no means-- but in the words of Tennesee Williams' Big Mama "When a marriage is on the rocks, the rocks are there." Now the statement may be far-fetched, considering the fact the wife may be totally content in her marriage. So, what's your verdict?

cheers,

Bellini