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Thursday, May 27, 2010

he's just not that into you...at all

a couple months back a friend of mine virtually introduced me to a friend of hers in that no-pressure-but-this-is-kind-of-a-hook-up sorta way.  dude (we'll call him malcolm) and i had a few phone conversations and then fell into a fcuk-effort crackberry messenger routine.  after we got past the stats and talked about our respective wants, needs and can't stands, we then began discussing a potential meet and greet.  you see, malcolm lives in the nyc area and i'm a nola girl (for now).  i had a trip to the dc urreaa planned already so we decided to meet there.

the short and short of it is that my trip came and went with me not meeting malcolm (in the middle) during my visit.  he apologized for "falling sick" during the weekend but expressed a desire to visit me in the crescent city.  so he can't be bothered to hop on 95 and drive for a couple hours but he'll buy a plane ticket and come all the way to the gulf coast?  boy stop!

what's clear to me is that he didn't want to meet me.  and before folks get all "don't be so hard on him maybe he was really sick" on me, i haven't heard from dude since then.  and that was 2 weeks ago.  riiiight.

it's all good though.  i never regret "meeting" a new person and having interesting conversation with them (for conversations sake alone).  but this whole blind date that never was got me to thinking.  if he wasn't feeling me why didn't he just say that?  i'm a big girl, i can take it.  no, really, i can.  just ignore my bbm's till i get the picture (or respond who is this? to my next message.)  lie to me and tell me you got a girlfriend.  defriend me on facebook.  send me an unsolicited text that simply says "yeah....no and no."   i'm so serious. these are all acceptable subtle ways of sending me that not so subtle message that you're just not that into me.

cause really and truly that's what i should start doing.  malcolm's no-show has me thinking, do i let the males in my life know i've tuned out?  to be honest, i'm probably no more clear and straightforward than malcolm was.  i keep numbers in case the need for a free lunch arises or a lonely saturday night rears its ugly head.  maybe i oughta let go of the tubbies who i know i could never ever ever get with for real for real and stop meeting them for drinks when i've got nothing better to do.  perhaps i should let go of my ole' ego stroke dinner companion and stop playing with his emotions.  maybe malcolm was a little bit of payback in cold hard relationship karma.  or maybe he really was sick...

5 comments:

Rum Punch said...

I really liked this! That is all. Lol.

Dirty Red said...

Well.....
He could have been really sick....
Or....
He could have had last minute plans with someone that he knew he might get lucky with. I mean even though NYC to Chocolate City is only a 3 and a half hour drive, that still is a long way to go for a "maybe". Ya feel me? But if he is willing to come to NO, why not let him? That is your stomping grounds and you can introduce him to your girls so that ya'll can rate him... Yeah I know this is what ya'll do... LOL
You just got to drill him a little to find out if he has a crazy and deranged woman out there that ain't afraid to put on a diaper and keep it moving 24 straight hours to cut his throat... and yours too.

Rum Punch said...

@ Dirty Red - BWAAAAAAHHH! That made me howl! On that note - I am leaving work and heading home. Funny.

Anonymous said...

He wasn't sick. He's not that interested,but he will reappear in a while. Guaranteed. Men don't burn bridges, they'll hang around forever. I wouldn't take it personally, he probably isn't trying to do the long distance thing or there might be some woman occupying his mind and time.

Keyanna said...

Thanks for this post. I just squashed a "going-nowhere" after reading this. Clarity is a good thing!